Thursday, January 14, 2010

Before I Was Momma...

I recently had some very brief communication with an old friend via Facebook. Well, I’ve had a lot of communication with old friends via Facebook but this one in particular has taken me on a little ride. I take these rides sometimes.

You see this person is one of those people that you may not think of much. But sometimes when you think back or get reminded you can’t help but smile. I have a few of those people in my life. The dialogue was brief but it left an impression that kept me smiling today. It took me back to the summer of 1997. I have quite a few memories of this person. One particular memory and the summer of 97 really stick out in my head though. So, here I am with a smile on my face and sometimes a little giggle.

My friend and I have spoke about these rides before. So, it wasn’t surprising when I mentioned it to her on the phone this morning. I wanted to share my ride with her. I believe we all probably take these rides. I think for mommies, it’s when your riding down the road alone and a song comes on that takes you back. Because honestly, when are you actually listening to your music when the kids are in the car! It’s nice to go back and relive those moments and remember…to remember the freedom and the laughter and to remember those special moments you have with old friends that no one can take away.

And then she said, “But we’re not free. We’re wives and mom’s now.” Thanks. Thanks a lot. Here I am taking my little ride and you bring me back to reality.

Now I’m not saying that I would change anything as it is today. But isn’t it nice to mentally escape sometimes. I’ve done some pretty wild and crazy things in my little lifetime. I have had moments of regret just like any body else. But I have also had some pretty awesome friends in my lifetime, too. Friends that make me smile when I think about the moments we had together.

If you haven't listened to this song...it's a must. This song takes me back to that place…now understand…the lady in this video is how I like to imagine myself to be completely what I look like. I have this box. I haven’t looked at it in years…but when I have looked at it…it always makes me go back...

8 comments:

Missy said...

Love the post .... so true...I'm not a mom yet but have thought back to my single, go anywhere, anytime days...love the past but so looking forward to my future...
Keep up the great work with the blog... I love it and look forward to reading.

Grizzly Bear said...

OMG we must be twins because I totally look like her like right now... yep my teen age boys friends look at me like that too.. LMAO.. well actually this is me in the video LOL....

This woman is gorgeous .........

I love looking back and the fun stuff we use to do,. amazing how things change

Tony C said...

It's uncanny! You look just alike!

Anyway...I'd have to go back to 1987...no wait...1997 wasn't too bad either, now that I think about it.

Okay, now I've got to picture Jerry all over again! lol

Tracy said...

Totally know what you mean about the music. I typically let my kids pick the music in the car. And frequently grit my teeth through the rap music as I tell myself that liking music that your parents don't is somehow part of being a teen. But when I'm all alone and driving and put on CDs with music that is sometimes stuff from past times in my life....the music brings back the good feelings.

So funny about the beauty and her sons friends. One of my sons' friend's mom had her kids very young and is really pretty and dresses very stylish/sexy (short dresses, etc.) and a lot of the football team looks at her and makes comments. It actually makes him a bit uncomfortable. I like his mom and must confess that I think it would be fun to look more like that but my son told me in confidence that he's glad I dress & look so conservative. Guess that's good since I can't be anyone other than I am.

~*Michelle*~ said...

This was great.....I look like her/you too, except I have reddish brown hair!!! LOL

I think it's great that you connected with a friend from way back....and always remember that all the "stuff" in our past....good,bad,ugly or otherwise.....is how we came to be who we are today.

I did a post about my "extreme makeover"....it's on my sidebar if you ever want a good laugh and trip down memory lane.

Great post!

Anonymous said...

I totally know what you mean...

Tina said...

Good Post!! Who doesn't look back on the "good ole' days"? I am so thankful for all that I have now, and would not go back for one minute. . .but sometimes I miss the freedom of only having myself to take care of. Although, I know now that God put me here to be a caregiver for others, while he is taking care of me. Sometimes it takes us so long to figure out the most simple things, doesn't it?

1 Special Family said...

Welll.... I have loved this song. But I also find that it ticks me off just a bit. I suspect that I am older than most of you other bloggers and a significant number of years ago could have been this girl. That part is really no big deal. What ticks me off is that no one believes me, especially my kids! I even have pictures! and they're still not buying... Oh well, I've got my memories I guess! - other than the weight gain and the enormous responsibilities, :) Life is good!!!!